June 30, 2008 by Avy.

The Value of Anger

“As an emotion, anger gets a bad rap in our culture. We are supposed to avoid being angry. We associate anger with aggression, violence, domination, and oppression. People who are angry are often judged as irrational. In the world of therapy, we say that someone is ‘reactive’ and their reactivity is tied to earlier, unresolved issues. We also talk about anger as a secondary or defensive emotion, covering up more vulnerable primary emotions such as sadness, fear, and shame. So, our culture develops the message that anger is a negative emotion, a morally questionable emotion, and a lesser (’secondary’) emotion than other emotions we might feel. We start feeling ashamed to feel anger and feel like we need to control our anger.”

- Matthew S. Burgess Leary, PhD

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June 20, 2008 by Avy.

So uh yeah. The Summer Solstice is tomorrow and I completely forgot. Not slipped my mind, but totally forgot. I have done no planning for this and it’s one of my favorite holidays! I feel so ashamed. Well no worries. I have all afternoon to celebrate. I have a nifty new cauldron, plenty of oils and smudgesticks. I can easily bake a small batch of cookies tomorrow… and get some fruit on my way home from work today. I’m pretty happy about it now that I remember what day it is. lolz fo shizzle.

Oh and I made Erik a doctor’s appointment for tomorrow morning. It was funny to feel so wifey like. I’m convinced it’s now my duty to make sure he goes to the doctor. After tomorrow’s appointment, I’ll be sure to get us in for cholesterol testing. It’s good to know these things. We’re gonna be healthier bears for sure.

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June 17, 2008 by Avy.

I’ve decided I’m going to get my lashes done. It’s good for a gyaru type of bear. I think I’m full of needing that.
My last paycheck sucked so I can’t do it for a couple of weeks since I’d like to be responsible.
I was thinking, my upkeep isn’t so bad:

The numbers for other people are a LOT higher. I think when you notice most things only happen every 2 weeks (nails, lashes, brows) it’s even better. I go into spurts with having my nails done and this will be a first time for lashes (which I may not like the feel of).
My hair is best left to professionals when it comes to blow-drying, so I think the salon will be a weekly thing. I still can’t believe how it’s grown! For the first time in a long time I love my hair. It’s great. Thank you Aveda! (I still want to try that Tsubaki shampoo and conditioner, but it’ll have to wait.)

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June 12, 2008 by Avy.

My bus driver got a great surprise this morning.

Near the end of our run, his wife and daughter were waiting for him. When he stoppped to let some passengers go, his daughter ran on the bus, jumped on his lap, and gave him a huge hug. They were so adorable. She was good and ran off the bus shortly after and waved goodbye with her Mama. It was just cute all around. He was beaming the rest of the ride. It’s a great way to start your day.

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June 6, 2008 by Avy.

 So I activated flickrstats like last week. Now I see that people actually DO look at my photos even though I don’t get many comments. Interesting. I have no complaints.

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